Relationship Mysteries

July 24, 2010 |  by

The great thing about falling in love is that sense of unexpected, that mystery, the magic of meeting someone new. But what about the person you’ve been with for 2, 5 or…20 years? Where’s the magic in that?

After all this time, we may think we know all there is to know about him or her…but really we don’t. We may think we know everything to know about ourselves…but usually we don’t. And there’s the mystery, right there. But it’s not obvious, we have to pursue it.

Right now, I’m asking these questions about my partner:

  • Who are you?
  • What are you going to say next?
  • What are you going to do next?
  • How are you going to “touch” me?

Instead of thinking I know the answers to these questions (boring – and not true), I want to open to answering, “I don’t know.” Likewise, on the other end, I want to break patterns in which I actually do say the same things and do the same things in a predictable, in-the-box way. Prove your partner wrong when they think they know all about you. Access the mystery of yourself.


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